• Home
  • Blog
  • Partner With Me!
  • Get To Know Hautemommie
  • Press
  • Shop
    • e-Book
    • Sweet Knowledge Clothing
    • Amazon Store
 0
The Hautemommie

Los Angeles based blogger and television host aiming to inspire people to pursue the life they envision.

Skip to content

  • Career

    How To Be Productive When Working From Home

    March 16, 2020March 13, 2020

    As a full-time freelancer and make things happen’er, I have had to nail down ways to be productive while working from home. Since 2012 I’ve been having to figure out how to get the best

    Read More

  • Career

    Learn How To Tell Your Story To Secure A Brand Deal

    November 22, 2019November 20, 2019

    The art of storytelling is essential to selling. Whether that’s a product, a photo, or your blog you must tell a compelling story. One reason so many creators or aspiring creators suffer with this necessary

    Read More

  • Career

    The One Thing Brands Miss When Working With Influencers

    October 30, 2019October 29, 2019

    Over the course of the past few years we’ve seen an uptick in the amount of people calling themselves influencers. If you aren’t familiar with the term, according to dictionary.com it is defined as, “a

    Read More

  • Career

    Having Confidence To Pursue Your Dreams

    July 29, 2019July 28, 2019

    It’s true that chasing your dreams isn’t something that comes with a workbook or a guide. You’re own there alone trying to navigate the waters with the hope that it all turns out right. That

    Read More

  • Career

    Pursuing Your Purpose In The Face Of Fear

    April 21, 2019April 21, 2019

    Giving fear the freedom to dictate our steps puts something else in charge of when and how our successes come to us. Are you willing to put someone else in charge of how you spend your day, your time, or your money? Then stop letting fear do the same.

    Read More

  • Career

    Why Black Women Are Worth The Investment

    April 3, 2019August 4, 2020

    Leslie Antonoff says, “When creating content I work overtime to get companies, brands, publicists, et al; to recognize that “diversity and inclusion” can’t just be a catch phrase but it must be an action.” More on The Hautemommie!

    Read More

  • Career

    Do You Really Need Passion To Succeed?

    February 20, 2019March 21, 2019

    People throw around words like they don’t mean things, often. Forgoing definitions and opting for lighter uses that sound good and make for a great hashtags. I, on the other hand, am vehemently opposed. I’ve

    Read More

  • Career

    How To Set Intentions For The New Year & Your Life

    December 24, 2018December 27, 2018

    Only 8 days until 2018 is behind us. Last year around this time I had declared my word for the year as elevate. Looking back over the past 35o some odd days, I can say

    Read More

    • Posts navigation

    Older posts
    Newer posts
    This #BlackMaternalHealthWeek I am reminded of my This #BlackMaternalHealthWeek I am reminded of my three pregnancies. The first one I was asked every week from 32 weeks on if I wanted to just opt for a Caesarean because my baby was big and for my size it could be difficult to labor. I declined over and over and when I finally went into labor ten weeks later — I had to have one anyway. I felt out of control, unsupported, and like I didn’t have the care I needed. Hospitalized for a week, alone. As a first time mother it was difficult and traumatic. ⠀ With my 2nd pregnancy and birth I was older had a better doctor plus the support of a spouse but still I was ill the majority of every trimester and though I gave birth (VBAC) I ended up getting a hernia and having to have surgery again. ⠀ That’s two now caused by birth if you’re counting. ⠀ With my last I felt prepared, I knew what to expect. Familiar with my small frame, how she carries these big healthy babies. I knew to breathe and relax. I had learned how to advocate for myself and to express my pain. And though the experience was easier there was still a moment when a nurse denied me pain medication claiming, “you’re doing great, you’ve haven’t needed it thus far you don’t need it now.” In the midst of trying to deliver an 8 pound child I was told - you’ll be fine. ⠀ That’s what it’s like for Black mothers we are told our pain is reasonable. Told we can bear it, can handle it. Even the 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 doctor told me, when expressing my nervousness to him about giving birth, “stop reading so many articles; you’ll be fine.” When headlines read that Black mothers are 4x as likely to not survive birth that is 𝘯𝘰𝘵 what we need to hear. ⠀ To the expecting mothers I want to empower you. Speak loudly and clearly about what you need. Let it be known that anything less than the best is not okay for you or your baby. Make them acknowledge your pain and treat it. Get your questions answered. Don’t take no for an answer, your life depends on it. I’m grateful to have brought my girls here and I’d do it again in a heartbeat. This week hold the Black mothers who didn’t have that chance in your hearts. ⠀ Black moms deserve more. It’s time we got it. ⠀ 〰️ #TheHautemommie
    Black people have been smiling through the pain fo Black people have been smiling through the pain for decades. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Black people have found something to laugh at for generations, no matter what has tried to steal our joy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Black people have risen in spite of being thrust to the ground by people, their hate, the laws they create to keep us there. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Black people have decided no matter what may come, we won’t give up. We refuse to give in because that would mean they have won. It will mean that everything we’ve fought for, every person we lost, each tear we’ve cried would be vain. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Since we’ve set foot on this patch of stolen land our existence has been up for debate. Every law, decree, and order was erected with one goal — to keep us in “our place.” And regardless of that, we’ve remained. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ imagine our rage? Imagine our fatigue? Think of our weary spirits and the turmoil passed down from generation to generation? And even in that, revenge and vengeance aren’t top of mind. We just want to LIVE in peace. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We’ve shown that we won’t concede the battle and for damn aren’t going to lose the war. Because giving up isn’t an option and that’s an assignment we understand. Deeply. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So I smile. Because my Blackness is not a burden, it is not too heavy for me to carry. It is an honor. And I refuse to let them see me sweat. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 〰️ #TheHautemommie #BlackJoy #blackexcellence
    Pulled up. Showed out. It’s the standard. 💁🏾‍♀️ 〰️ #TheHautemommie #stylefiles #LosAngeles
    Being a parent means understanding that you can’ Being a parent means understanding that you can’t parent all of them the same. There is a certain amount of discovery that has to happen with each of our children. An experiment if you will, searching for exact method for each individual to make them everything they are called to be. It can be hard to commit ourselves to figuring out each nuance, doling out discipline in different ways, and ultimately taking the time to figure out how to love each of them in the language that speaks to their hearts. I’m by no means perfect at it but I think knowing this is what it takes, makes me a winner in the game. Teenager to toddler, I’m making it work and these smiles let me know I may be onto something with this mom thing.👌🏾 💭what lessons have you learned being a parent to more than one kid? 〰️ #TheHautemommie #TheHauteMinies #motherhoodunplugged
    it doesn’t take much to build traditions, just w it doesn’t take much to build traditions, just willing participants that have no choice. 🙃😝😁 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ this morning we supported a #BlackOwned #WomanOwned business for #donutSunday because in everything I do, I find a way to teach my girls that entrepreneurship is at the base of everything. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ @devis.donuts, they were delish! 🍩👌🏾 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 〰️ #TheHautemommie #TheHauteMinies #donutsofinstagram
    We aren’t always the same. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We evolve, we grow, we become, we decrease and if in the journey of all of that the people you’ve chosen to keep in your corner don’t support or understand that where we start isn’t where we end? Then perhaps you have to rethink their place in your life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ While I don’t believe that the true character of people should fluctuate or waver; I do think that the experiences of our life can change our outlook. To me, quality relationships are those that can handle those inevitable shifts. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sometimes I have a lot to say, sometimes it’s my silence that speaks volumes, some moments I’m afraid, and some I am bold about whatever I put my hands to. In it all I am grateful that the people I’ve chosen, choose me back, whichever me I may be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💭 would you agree? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 〰️ #TheHautemommie #WordsToLiveBy #HautemommiePutMeOn
    follow my HAUTE life!!

    Get on the List!

    • Partner With Me!
    • Terms
    • Privacy Policy

    COPYRIGHT ©2019 THE HAUTEMOMMIE • SITE BY PINK DRAGON DESIGN