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Every evening before we call it a night, @castiron

Every evening before we call it a night, @castironking and I like to ask one another a question. Something to think on, about our relationship, our love, this thing we’re doing. Lately the questions have been coming from a @werenotreallystrangers game pack. A question asked, “what would you name this chapter of your relationship & why?” Jordan’s answer made me think.
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His response: “𝘼𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙𝙧𝙚𝙣 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙙 — 𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩?”
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There always seems to be a next step in relationships. Date, maybe marry, perhaps children. But after you’ve unlocked all the achievement levels, then what? What the question and his answer made me unpack was how much focus we put on the newness of love. But far too often we forget about the settledness of it. 𝙒𝙚 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙖𝙣 𝙤𝙡𝙙 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚, 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙗𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨, 𝙖 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙤𝙣 𝙡𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙚𝙚𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙮 𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙟𝙪𝙙𝙜𝙚𝙙 𝙗𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙙𝙚𝙥𝙩𝙝𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙞𝙩𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝.
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Yes dating is fun, eventful, and at times I miss the spontaneity of the thing. But there’s something in the “now what,” that feels like the perfect worn in t-shirt. That falls just so and hugs in the right places.
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First comes love, then marriage, then babies in the carriage and while the rhyme may stop there, we don’t. I think we should add then comes some change, growth, and probably a few ups & downs. But ultimately you build. Build the life you dreamed of after that first date.
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So now what?
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Well I say, now, live. Happily, fully, but most importantly knowing that whatever comes next you’ll both be there. Together.
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#TheHautemommie #TheAntonoffsAreOn

Tell me you love a red lip without telling me you

Tell me you love a red lip without telling me you love a red lip. 💋💋
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#TheHautemommie #SelfieSaturday

One of the things on my 40 before 40 list is to fi

One of the things on my 40 before 40 list is to find a signature hair style. I’m loving my blonde baldie for now, but is she here to stay??? 🤔🤔
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#TheHautemommie #Hair #SwitchUp

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and still we press on.
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the thing I’ve learned about success is that the more I worry about it, the more I’m not focused on the things that make me successful. Rather than being fearful I have to stand on what I know to be true — my gifts will make room for me.
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when we expend all of our energy trying to figure out or force something to happen for us, we’re telling God that we don’t trust Him to move on our behalf. But you know what I’ve discovered? The more I shove and push, the harder the doors are to open. It’s when I relax and let my faith kick in that life moves with the ease of a flowing river.
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I know I’m not alone so I’m not going to ask if you’ve been there, instead I’ll say let’s normalize trusting that our steps are ordered and that who you are is enough to get you exactly what you need.
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#TheHautemommie #WordsToLiveBy #Faith

pretty nails are a must to count my ends and my bl

pretty nails are a must to count my ends and my blessings. 😉👅💅🏾
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#TheHautemommie #Nailfie

What a full circle moment for @artsie_fartsie and

What a full circle moment for @artsie_fartsie and I! We grew up watching Michaela every morning before school and Thursday we had the opportunity to discuss 5 pro tips for refreshing your space for spring! She was so elated to hear about the melanin coming to @hgtv and I think you can tell by our smiles — we are too!
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Swipe for a snippet! 📺📺
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#TheHautemommie #GoodDayLA #SisterFixers

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